Monday, August 4, 2014

I Chose to Walk Away


I walked away- but will never disappear. Let me explain, briefly. On June 21, 2014, my younger son was married. I was not invited, nor included in any way. I knew where the wedding was to take place, I knew when it would take place. Some... people suggested I just show up, others offered to take photos for me - as they would be there......I chose to "walk away" that day. Instead, some wonderful friends made a dinner party for me on June 21. It was a difficult heartwrenching evening - but I was even able to laugh once or twice with my friends (in between a few tears, as I did not deserve how I was treated by my son the groom)....
For 15 years of his life, I was the one who raised him - pretty much single handedly. I loved him with every breath in me. But on this night of June 21, I knew that the bride deserved her special night - drama free. Even though my phonecalls and emails to her went ignored. I walked away that night - in order to give the groom and bride their special evening - a fairytale that did not include the mother of the groom. My letter to the father of the bride is on my blog - I wish he had organized a dinner/lunch where I could have met my future daughter in law - and the mother of the bride. Nothing was done. They just wanted me to disappear. Well, I walked away with dignity. But I will never disappear. I pray our children have much happiness in their future. And some day, compassion and peace in their heart.

4 comments:

Judy said...

You have acted and continue to act with grace and dignity. If these people had any sense they would be mortified. You are a class act and the strongest woman I know ❤️

Star Gazer said...
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jhlstyle said...

Judy, thank you so much for what you said....and Star Gazer, thank you, too! I just didn't want the bride's name or family name on my blog at this time. For everyone who has written me - I thank you all with all my heart.

Star Gazer said...

Tragically, KB did not walk away from marrying a ‘hater’, as she should have. A marriage where one party is known to be a ‘hater’, will not be filled with joy and happiness. What was KB thinking? What were her parents thinking?